Considering What “Marriage Equality” Will Really Mean

Happyness of three couples

Today, the Supreme Court heard oral arguments regarding the definition of marriage. The Court is expected to render a decision on June 26. Based on the Court’s recent actions and inaction, it is likely that the Court will declare a constitutional right to same-sex marriage. However, we want to continue praying for God’s mercy in this matter.

Some will ask, “Why do you care? Why not allow two adults who love each other to be married?” That argument sounds reasonable, right? However, consider the logical conclusions of this argument, and you’ll quickly discover that there is no stopping place. In other words, if marriage is no longer defined as a relationship between one man and one woman with the obvious biological realties connected to procreation, then marriage can and eventually will mean anything.

To put it another way, if a loving, same-sex couple can be married, why not a “throuple” or three-some in their meaningful, loving relationship? Or why not four? Could a father marry his adult son? Could widows and widowers group together in various arrangements, marrying to share social security and savings?[1] And the list goes on. If marriage is severed from the biological realities associated with procreation, there will be no end to innovation. What does marriage equality mean in these contexts?

If marriage is redefined, then marriage ultimately loses all meaning. Rampant divorce and the culture of cohabitation have already done irreparable harm to children and families. The redefinition of marriage will be another momentous step away from the stability of family structure. Why do we care? Love of neighbor compels us to care. Marriage was instituted by God to provide a healthy context for the nurture and instruction of children (Genesis 1.27-28, Ephesians 6.4). When we abandon God’s good provision, children will suffer. Ultimately, society as a whole suffers as the structure and stability of family gives way.

Anderson, George, and Girgis are exactly right, “Marriage plays a fundamental role in civil society because it is characterized by sexual complementarity, monogamy, exclusivity, and permanence. These marriage norms encourage men and women to commit permanently and exclusively to each other and take responsibility for their children.”[2]

Am I a bigot and mean-hearted for praying and hoping that the Court will not take this next step in furthering the erosion of the family? That’s certainly what I’d be called by many people. As believers we must remain faithful to God’s Word even when it feels awkward as it certainly does in today’s cultural climate. God’s Word and love of neighbor compel us to remain steadfast even in the face of opposition. Will you join me in praying for God’s mercy in this matter? God can change the hearts of kings (Proverbs 21.1). Perhaps, He will.

[1]Hadley Arkes, “The Jujitsu of Same-Sex Marriage: One Last Surge of Reflection for the Court,” First Things, April 14, 2015.

[2]Sherif Girgis, Ryan T. Anderson, and Robert P. George, What Is Marriage? Man and Woman: A Defense (New York: Encounter Press, 2012).